Brene Brown Trust

The Anatomy of Trust

Healthy relationships are built by cultivating trust. But, what does that mean? In her recent talk, “The Anatomy of Trust,” Dr. Brené Brown shares key components that are the hallmarks of trusting relationships with others and with yourself. In her talk, Brené shares Charles Feltman’s “most beautiful definition of trust:” “Trust is Read more…

Healthy Debate

The New Dinner Table

I am thrilled to have another contribution as part of the conversation going on in the Kindness Community, A Word Imagined, from Dr. Jeff M. Christian about how we can all grow a healthier discourse in our online communities. His thoughts offer some creative ways to cultivate a kinder experience that makes space for a healthier, healing Read more…

Shame Resilience

Shame Resilience

Shame is an intensely painful experience that impacts our sense of self and our relationships. Shame is the experience that there is something deeply wrong with me and there is no way to fix it. When triggered, we feel exposed and experience painful emotional and physical symptoms: Increased body temperature – a Read more…

The 3 Phases of Love

I often walk alongside couples struggling to understand what happened to the love they shared early on in their relationship. I find it comforting to know that all couples go through times of disorientation and that moving through this experience together can actually foster deeper love. Michael Fulfiler’s article “The 3 Phases of Love,” Read more…

Assertive Communication

The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication

In his recent article, “The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication,” Guy Harris discusses the impact communication has on the health of relationships. He offers helpful insights into the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive styles of communication and to create healthier conversations. Excerpt from, “The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Read more…

Communication Breakdowns

It’s Not About the Nail

Communication breakdowns happen so easily in relationships. We often try really hard to be what our partner needs, but our efforts seem to miss the mark: “Stop trying to fix it, I just need you to listen to me.” I know a couple that created a plan to address this issue head-on. Whenever “Mary” asks “Sam” if Read more…

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Build Trust in Relationships

Trust is an essential ingredient in healthy relationships. But how do we build trust in relationships? In the following videos, John Gottman, one of the foremost relationship experts, shares why trust is so important and gives some practical tools on how to grow trust with one another.

abusive relationship

Abusive Relationship?

Is My Relationship Abusive? For those that wonder if their relationship is emotionally destructive, Leslie Vernick created an “Emotionally Destructive Relationship Quiz” to help create some clarity. At the end of the quiz is a description of how the selected answers match up with different types of destructive relationships. What if someone I Read more…

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Gratitude in Marriage

Gratitude is an essential part of healthy relationships. When we practice daily gratitude with our partner, it is less likely that we will take each other for granted. Psychology Today explores the benefits of gratitude in relationships in the recent article, “Does Gratitude Matter in Marriage?“

Communication skills

Communication Skills

Bruce Muzik uses the metaphor of a game of tennis to illustrate healthy communication skills. His video is informative, witty, and fun to watch. Many of the couples that I work with have found this a useful tool in their efforts to improve their communication skills.