The following is taken from Chapter 19 of When the Body Says No; Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection by Gabor Mate, M.D. The Seven A’s of Healing “Pursuing the seven A’s of healing will help us grow into emotional competence. Emotional competence is the capacity that enables us to
In Kelly McGonigal’s latest book,”The Upside of Stress,” she explores how things that create meaning and happiness in our lives also create stress. When we learn to change our relationship with stress, we build in possibilities for meaning and happiness. In the following video, McGonigal recommends practical ways to shift our perspective on stress:
I hear more and more people talking about stress. Increased feelings of stress. I hear it on Facebook, emails from friends and family, even in everyday conversations. I spoke recently on the topic of self-compassion and stress-management at a major corporation in Houston. After I finished, I was amazed at
I recently had the honor of facilitating a class about healthy relationship practices. During one discussion about the importance of anger as an emotion, we examined how anger in relationships can be detrimental if we are not gentle with those we love. Anger is neither good nor bad. In fact,
The light stream is a relaxation meditation used to calm distressing sensations in the body. It is also a body scan that allows you to be compassionate and mindful of what you are experiencing and feeling in this present moment. This is an adaptation of Francine Shapiro’s original Light Stream.
A loving kindness prayer uses words and images to evoke feelings of loving kindness toward oneself and others. According to the article, “18 Science-Based Reasons to Try Loving Kindness Meditation Today,” a consistent practice of a Loving Kindness meditation can decrease symptoms of PTSD, improve wellbeing, and bolster the
I recently wrote a blog post, “Wonder Woman Learns Healthy Boundaries,” about how to create healthy relational boundaries and why it is an essential practice. I planned to write an article on ways to maintain boundaries with difficult people… and then I came across “5 Ways to
Communication breakdowns happen so easily in relationships. We often try really hard to be what our partner needs, but our efforts seem to miss the mark: “Stop trying to fix it, I just need you to listen to me.” I know a couple that created a plan to address this issue head-on. Whenever “Mary” asks “Sam” if
I am excited to do something a little different this week. Kim Fredrickson, counselor and author of the book, Give Yourself a Break: Turning Your Inner Critic into a Compassionate Friend, has graciously contributed a guest post about the how to develop greater compassion with our own selves. Her message has
Mark Williams, a professor at Oxford University, offers a collection of free audio meditations. All of the meditations are taken from the book he wrote in collaboration with Danny Penman: Mindfulness: Finding Peace in a Frantic World. I have used a number of these meditations with
Life keeps getting faster. I have so much going on with my two teenagers, my husband, work, friends, volunteering… the list just never ends. It is all good stuff. I love my life. But I have learned over the years that I cannot do it all, even though it feels
Can changing our thinking impact our experience of stress? In her recent TED talk, Kelly McGonigal explores the purpose of the stress response in our body: “Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research
A breathing space meditation is a brief meditation used several times each day to gently create a new habit of mindfulness. The four minute breathing space is simple and easy to use two to three times a day. Breathing Space Practice: Two or Three times each day Each day, notice and
A loving kindness prayer uses words and images to evoke feelings of loving kindness toward oneself and others. The following Loving-Kindness meditation is in the form of a prayer that focuses on God’s loving kindness toward us and how we then become a vessel of His love toward others.
Olga Phoenix’s Self Care Wheel is split into six essential self-care categories: Physical Psychological Emotional Spiritual Personal Professional The wheel offers helpful ideas for each element of self-care. Start small. Pick one or two things this week and notice the impact on how you feel.