Give Yourself A Break

Give Yourself A Break

I recently received “Give Yourself a Break” in the mail and immediately read over half of it. It is wonderful. Kim Fredrickson’s book about self-compassion explores God’s compassion for us from a balanced perspective that includes both truth and grace. Compassionate self-talk has been shown to calm the threat-detection system and allow us Read more…

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Build Trust in Relationships

Trust is an essential ingredient in healthy relationships. But how do we build trust in relationships? In the following videos, John Gottman, one of the foremost relationship experts, shares why trust is so important and gives some practical tools on how to grow trust with one another.

breathing space

Breathing Space

A breathing space meditation is a brief meditation used several times each day to gently create a new habit of mindfulness. The four minute breathing space is simple and easy to use two to three times a day. Breathing Space Practice: Two or Three times each day Each day, notice and jot Read more…

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Loving Kindness Centering Prayer

A loving kindness prayer uses words and images to evoke feelings of loving kindness toward oneself and others. The following Loving-Kindness meditation is in the form of a prayer that focuses on God’s loving kindness toward us and how we then become a vessel of His love toward others.

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Abusive Relationship?

Is My Relationship Abusive? For those that wonder if their relationship is emotionally destructive, Leslie Vernick created an “Emotionally Destructive Relationship Quiz” to help create some clarity. At the end of the quiz is a description of how the selected answers match up with different types of destructive relationships. What if someone I Read more…

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Gratitude in Marriage

Gratitude is an essential part of healthy relationships. When we practice daily gratitude with our partner, it is less likely that we will take each other for granted. Psychology Today explores the benefits of gratitude in relationships in the recent article, “Does Gratitude Matter in Marriage?“

Communication skills

Communication Skills

Bruce Muzik uses the metaphor of a game of tennis to illustrate healthy communication skills. His video is informative, witty, and fun to watch. Many of the couples that I work with have found this a useful tool in their efforts to improve their communication skills.

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Assertiveness

Assertiveness is based on balance. It requires being forthright about our wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others. When we practice assertiveness, we ask for what we want and realize that other’s needs and wants are equally important. Assertive people practice fairness and empathy with themselves and others. The power Read more…

self-care wheel

Self-Care Wheel

Olga Phoenix’s Self Care Wheel is split into six essential self-care categories: Physical Psychological Emotional Spiritual Personal Professional The wheel offers helpful ideas for each element of self-care. Start small. Pick one or two things this week and notice the impact on how you feel.  

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Just Breathe

When we feel overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or can’t seem to stop our minds from racing, deep breathing calms the body and helps us refocus. Just breathe. When we feel overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or can’t seem to stop our minds from racing, deep breathing calms the body and helps us refocus. Read more…