Kindness in marriage

Kindness in Our Marriage

I am excited to introduce everyone to Waymon and his wife Charla. Waymon is a licensed psychologist and marriage and family therapist, a researcher, and an advocate in matters related to social justice. I recently asked Waymon to contribute some thoughts about how kindness impacts the marriage relationship from the perspective of a marriage Read more…

What Makes Relationships Work

What Makes Relationships Work?

I have noticed there seems to be way too much advice about relationships. If you struggle in your relationship, the conflicting opinions can feel frustrating and overwhelming. John Gottman’s recent article, “Debunking 12 Myths About Relationships,” is a helpful resource in sorting through advice that is actually helpful from the advice that causes harm. Read more…

The 3 Phases of Love

I often walk alongside couples struggling to understand what happened to the love they shared early on in their relationship. I find it comforting to know that all couples go through times of disorientation and that moving through this experience together can actually foster deeper love. Michael Fulfiler’s article “The 3 Phases of Love,” Read more…

Anger in Relationships

Managing Anger In Relationships

I recently had the honor of facilitating a class about healthy relationship practices. During one discussion about the importance of anger as an emotion, we examined how anger in relationships can be detrimental if we are not gentle with those we love. Anger is neither good nor bad. In fact, Read more…

Assertive Communication

The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication

In his recent article, “The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Communication,” Guy Harris discusses the impact communication has on the health of relationships. He offers helpful insights into the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive styles of communication and to create healthier conversations. Excerpt from, “The Difference Between Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive Read more…

Communication Breakdowns

It’s Not About the Nail

Communication breakdowns happen so easily in relationships. We often try really hard to be what our partner needs, but our efforts seem to miss the mark: “Stop trying to fix it, I just need you to listen to me.” I know a couple that created a plan to address this issue head-on. Whenever “Mary” asks “Sam” if Read more…

love in action

Love In Action

“If one wishes to know love, one must live love, in action.” – Leo Buscaglia At the dinner table this week, my family had a conversation about satisfying relationships. My teenage daughter wanted to know some things that my husband and I do to help us to keep our love Read more…

build trust in relationships

Build Trust in Relationships

Trust is an essential ingredient in healthy relationships. But how do we build trust in relationships? In the following videos, John Gottman, one of the foremost relationship experts, shares why trust is so important and gives some practical tools on how to grow trust with one another.

gratitude

Gratitude in Marriage

Gratitude is an essential part of healthy relationships. When we practice daily gratitude with our partner, it is less likely that we will take each other for granted. Psychology Today explores the benefits of gratitude in relationships in the recent article, “Does Gratitude Matter in Marriage?“

Communication skills

Communication Skills

Bruce Muzik uses the metaphor of a game of tennis to illustrate healthy communication skills. His video is informative, witty, and fun to watch. Many of the couples that I work with have found this a useful tool in their efforts to improve their communication skills.